Making the Difficult Choice to Get Care for a Loved One

February 4, 2016 Published by

There are few decisions more difficult to make than making the call when and if to place an older parent in home care.  This decision comes with so many emotions. Relief that you will finally get much-needed assistance, but guilty not to be able to provide everything he or she needs. While guilty feelings may overpower relief,  there is little or nothing to feel guilty about choosing home care for a loved one because there are many benefits to making the change.

  • Gets Them The Care They Need: Unless you work with seniors already, you probably don’t have the experience needed to properly care for your older loved one.  Turning to an expert in senior care will bring relief.With less chance of error, you can feel good about your older loved one being in good hands.  Additionally, a senior care worker has the knowledge and understanding elders need at this stage in life.
  • Improves Your Relationship with Your Older Loved One: When you allow someone else to handle the trials of senior care, you end up improving your relationship with your parent. This means that time spent together is quality time that you’ll treasure rather than frustration or stressful.
  • Shows Love in Other Ways: You do not have to physically do everything for your parent.  You can also love someone in the way you interact with them, through what else you provide, and how you behave around the person.  If you are the caregiver, you may not be able to show your love as well.
  • You’ll Trust Yourself More: After deciding on home care and seeing how it helps your loved one and your family, you’ll see that it was probably the best situation for you. This will make you feel better about yourself, and help you trust yourself more.
  • Help You Feel Better About Yourself: You aren’t neglecting your aging parent, you are making sure he/she is getting the care needed in this stage of life. This can improve self-esteem, and allow great things to happen in other parts of your life.
  • Reduces Stress on Family: Family caregiving affects your entire family. When you’re stressed, people closest to you often mirror your stress. By choosing home care, you eliminate that stress and you are free to be happy around other important people in your life.
  • You Get Cared For Too: Many home care centers provide support to family members. They may have support groups or someone in the center that offers time for family members to ask questions. This can be helpful and great for your mental health as you cope with the changes of old age.

Making the decision to seek home care for your older parent is not an easy one, but there are many benefits to it. Feeling guilty for not taking on the responsibility is common, but realizing you are taking care of your parent can help you feel better about that decision.

This stage of life should be filled with good feelings and times, so you can create memories you’ll treasure forever. Remember to be good to yourself and to your older loved ones.